Saturday, March 3, 2012

Teenage Moodiness

We have a soon to be teenager at home. The last year has been really trying for all of us coping with her moodiness. Is it hormonal? Is it part of growing up? Friends who have girls around the same age seem to be in the same predicament too. It's hard to pick the right mood. Some days she's a joy to have around the house and other days, there is no pleasing her at all. I am tearing my hair out trying to play the good cop vs hubby's bad cop. Men, they just don't understand that they need to be a little patient. I find I am constantly playing the referee between the two of them. At times, it doesn't help when the little one butts in as well. It just makes the situation worse and tension all around. Almost have to pull put the red or yellow card.

I try not to ask too many questions, because it appears I'm nagging. So I wait for her to initiate conversation. At times, if she is not forthcoming, I'll give it a go and see if I get any bites. I find she will open up when there's just the two of us, usually just before she sleeps. She likes me to lie down with her and just chat. I enjoy that too, but sometimes I am just so tired and stressed, that I get impatient.

Sometimes I wonder where has my sweet angel gone to? Who's taken her away? I try to think back to my own teenage years to recall if I was ever this moody. According to my Mum, I was the same too, but I can't remember - amnesia (LOL!)

8 comments:

  1. Well, I hope this is just a stage, Charmaine. More open communication will definitely help.

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  2. It's not easy to be a mom eh. I don't think i was moody when i was a teenager - i was trying hard to please my mom and dad. Different times Charmaine.

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  3. SY: I'm hoping tht it is a stage too. I know it will get better just when.. In the meantime, deep breaths

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  4. well its a long 7 years until they are out of their teens. Meanwhile we hold our breath and pray that they (and we too!) sail thru it without too many hiccups and bumps.

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  5. I remember clear as day being moody at that age, felt misunderstood and unloved, my moods compounding the problem, now that I'm standing on the other side looking out. Parents of our generation do not seek to understand,so oftentimes I was in a dour mood, uncommunicative and depressed. My mum complained to all who cared to listen, about this transformation of a sweet, good natured child to this rude, brooding teen. Yeah, I was there before.

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  6. SAHM: lots of prayers needed to sail thru this time.
    Aunty Cecilia: i try to be there n present whn she needs me. These years will fly by quickly.

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  7. i dono. Qiqi is only 8 at the moment but she has turned into another girl out of sudden. Can't even make her voice out...sigh!!!!!

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  8. Tell me about it. Alycia is only 8YO+ and she's already having those teenager symptoms. I notice that if I join her 'club' and pretends to be interested in what interests her, she'll be one very happy girl but it's tough. She does not like me to query her too much on the things that she does. Sometimes we will go to bed having resentment between us due to some unresolved issues.. but like you, I am just too tired and stressed up to talk and settle the prob. I guess we just have to close one eye on certain things and everyone will be happy :)

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